Mama's Boys.

So i had a VERY interesting conversation with one of my good friends the other night. She seems to keep ending up with "Mama's Boys."
You know...the type of men who have mothers that stunt their growth.
Mentally. Financially. Emotionally. Socially.
MEN? Whats really the deal here?
I understand that several men nowadays have been raised by single mothers, which creates this..."bond." And through this bond the Mothers and Son's have this type of attachment. And in my opinion, some of these attachments are unhealty.
I do realize that we all want what's best for our family members. Especially those of you who have children. However, there comes a time and place when some ties need to be broken. Some cords need to be cut. And some relationships need to have boundaries.
There is NO reason, a grown man should be living at home rent free. (Make an exception if he's a student) There is NO reason that a grown man should stick his hand out for financial help with car notes, cell phone bills, clothes, shoes and entertainment...and there is NO reason for a mother to enable these "men" to be boys.
If the saying is true, "The way a man treats his mother is that way he'll treat his wife," let me steer clear of all Mama's Boys. There is no way in hell i'm about to have some man of mine thinking it's cool to not get his own. Ohhhh NO! I'd do better alone! In my opinion, a man should behave as instructed in the bible. Work hard. Eat good.
If any mothers of "Mama's Boys" are reading this I would really like feedback. Why are you stunting you son's growth? Why are you not preparing him to be an excellent husband and father? Why are you teaching him that it's OK to take from women, when in fact he should strive hard to be a provider.
-Not just provide for his future family, but for YOU too. Mothers, you have done your job. Its time for the tables to turn.
When you son hits GROWN, It's time to let him fly. Be free. Handle his own. Be a man...a damn good one at that.

I know...it's hard being a woman and raising a man. But mothers, you still have to go the extra mile to teach him how it's supposed to be done. It's ok to take care of and spoil your boys, but there is a time and a place for that...and there is also a time and place for you to see the morals and values that (should have) been installed flourish.
Let's all take this as a challenge. Mother's: Let Go. "Mama's Boys": Get your own. Future FATHERS: Set an example. Stay in your son's life and be a good father to him and a good husband, lover or friend to his mom so he can follow suit. Future Mothers...just don't do it.

oops! (First Love's)

WOW. i haven't blogged since May. Its November...shame on me! this makes me realize how easy it is for all of us to forget our first love...that thing that was good to us, our outlet, or sanity, our peace. In my case, it was my writing. It's so easy to become so wrapped up in trying to "find ourselves" and make our mark in this world that we forget the small things. the simple things. the things that make us smile without a doubt, those things that we love to love because we KNOW its gonna love us back. I understand that at times we can get caught up in the hoop-la of the world and unknowingly forget about our...lets call it, "first love." However, its important that we always return to it. "It" being our desires, passions, goals and dreams. Never let down the thing that hasn't let you down. Never forget about those passions ("First Love's") that gave you butterflies at the thought of them. Never forget those First Love's that inspired you to dream bigger and achieve higher. We must make it a point to return to those things. With all that being said...I promise to return to my first love. Literature. You guys will be hearing a lot more from me. God Bless.