I'm tired of you bouncing back...Let me love you from a distance.

People, even more than things, have been restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; Never throw out anyone. -Audrey Hepburn

This quote holds a lot of truth. It is the truth. People change. Even after they've been horrible. They can always bounce back. Even myself for example. I've been a bitch. I've been snooty. I've been a "mean girl." But I bounced back. Got my attitude and my act together and now i consider myself an all around "good person." Some people gave me 2nd chances to reclaim myself while others didn't.

For those who didn't, I totally get it.

People go through things. And during the time that they're going through, they may hurt you. They may say words to ruin your reputation. They may take from you. They may drain you. But keep in mind, they have the ability to bounce back.
Let's say they do bounce back and you give them a second chance; You soon begin to notice they cycle again. Once again, you're hurt. You're bruised. You're drained. What do you do now? Keep in mind, they'll probably bounce back and once again, that quote by Audrey Hepburn is active in your life.

My question is: How long do we allow this cycle to continue? How many times are people allowed to restore, renew, revive and reclaim themselves?
When does it turn from being forgiving to being taken advantage of? And how long will we tolerate it?

The end of that quote that this entry began with states, "Never write off anyone." Hmmm. So does that mean that people can take us through an emotional rollercoaster and then bounce back...and then do it again and we be OK with that?
My first thought is "HELL NO!" However, the smart side of my brain knows, to NEVER write anyone completely off. Especially people you love. And often, it's the people who we love taking us through this cycle. Think about it, when was the last time you let a person who you had not a care in the world for drive you nuts?
Chances are, you haven't
The people we love, know we love them. And they know that no matter how many times they take us through this cycle, they'll somehow bounce back and be at square one. And because they KNOW this, they (sometimes unknowingly) hurt us, brusie us, tear us down. And It's OK to love these people. However, these type of people have to be loved from a distance.
When you love somebody from a distance, it doesn't completely cut a person out of your life. It's just you taking control and making the decision of holding the relationship in YOUR hands. When you hold the relationship in your hands, you reduce the risk of this cycle occuring. People can't just bounce back as freely as they want to.

I'm tired of seeing people take advantage of people who love them. Sometimes we are so selfish and self centered that we don't even realize what we're doing and how we're bringing other people down. I encourage all of us to take a step back and look into our hearts. What is the motive? Are we constantly in bounce back mode? Are we constantly restoring, renewing, reviving, reclaming and redeeming ourselves? If you notice those traits in yourself, check it. Quick. Not everyone will follow the ending of that quote. Some people won't love you from a distance. Some people will soon grow tired of you bouncing back and just cut you off. And you don't want that...especially from the people who show you so much love.
We all need each other in one way or another. Lets not ruin relationships by contantly being in bounce back mode. Once we bounce back, we need to find stability.