Today i observed single dad. He got all the praise. All the praise for having his son. Why were they praising him and giving him all this positive energy? Because he was doing it alone. Have we forgotten that there are women out here raising several children. Alone. Yet she gets no pat on the back because it's "the norm."
Sometimes i feel as if the few single dad's that are out there get unnecessary praise. I understand, that there are several men NOT taking care of their children, however...why do we go out of our way to glorify the man that does. It's his job. It should be his first priority. We should not celebrate him because he is doing it alone. You make a baby, you take care of a baby. No need to roll out the red carpet and invite the paparazzi for interviews because a man is doing what he needs to do. Society is all twisted. And it disgusts me. With a passion.
My mother raised me alone for my entire life. Never asked for a handout, Never asked for money. She did what she had to do to make sure that i was fed and had a bed to sleep in. At twenty-two, in some ways she is still raising me. Where is her trophy? Where is her nod of approval? I'm waiting...oh right she doesn't get one, because to be a single mom is soooo normal.
Why are we so pleased to see a man doing a job that millions of women do everyday?
This man that i was observing today, was flaunting around the fact that he was a single dad. Complaining that his baby mama didn't want the kid and blah blah blah...then he goes on to say how he's gonna do whatever he need's to do to make sure his kid was alright... It seemed to me as if he were looking for sympathy. And everyone gave in. wake up America! Did we forget, this is his child. His own flesh and blood. Raising him should not be out of the norm. Alone or not.
As he moseyed on...telling his story. Seeking praises. I sat back and thought. I rarely hear single mothers looking for praises and pats on their backs. They do what they have to do. Daddy or no Daddy. and most of the time, without complaint. It sucks that the tables are turned.
Being a single parent, Mother or Father should not be a norm in our society. We as a community need to start setting an example of real love for the upcoming generations. Right now, were teaching them that more than likely, they'll be single...or having baby mama drama. And thats not cool. We need to be examples of loving marriages and relationships. We need to teach those looking to us an example the right way to go. Think about it before you conceive. Is this a person that i can have a healthy relationship with...for this child's sake? Can i deal with this person for the next twenty-plus years...for this child's sake? Am i mature enought to fight past drama, agony and stress...for this child's sake? Think before you conceive...be an example is these kid's lives. Lets display Love. Honor. Patience. Positivity. Lets leave all this "Baby Mama Drama" at the door.
-and single dad's. I respect you for stepping to the plate when millions of Dad's choose not too. However, keep in mind, you're only doing you job.
Sometimes i feel as if the few single dad's that are out there get unnecessary praise. I understand, that there are several men NOT taking care of their children, however...why do we go out of our way to glorify the man that does. It's his job. It should be his first priority. We should not celebrate him because he is doing it alone. You make a baby, you take care of a baby. No need to roll out the red carpet and invite the paparazzi for interviews because a man is doing what he needs to do. Society is all twisted. And it disgusts me. With a passion.
My mother raised me alone for my entire life. Never asked for a handout, Never asked for money. She did what she had to do to make sure that i was fed and had a bed to sleep in. At twenty-two, in some ways she is still raising me. Where is her trophy? Where is her nod of approval? I'm waiting...oh right she doesn't get one, because to be a single mom is soooo normal.
Why are we so pleased to see a man doing a job that millions of women do everyday?
This man that i was observing today, was flaunting around the fact that he was a single dad. Complaining that his baby mama didn't want the kid and blah blah blah...then he goes on to say how he's gonna do whatever he need's to do to make sure his kid was alright... It seemed to me as if he were looking for sympathy. And everyone gave in. wake up America! Did we forget, this is his child. His own flesh and blood. Raising him should not be out of the norm. Alone or not.
As he moseyed on...telling his story. Seeking praises. I sat back and thought. I rarely hear single mothers looking for praises and pats on their backs. They do what they have to do. Daddy or no Daddy. and most of the time, without complaint. It sucks that the tables are turned.
Being a single parent, Mother or Father should not be a norm in our society. We as a community need to start setting an example of real love for the upcoming generations. Right now, were teaching them that more than likely, they'll be single...or having baby mama drama. And thats not cool. We need to be examples of loving marriages and relationships. We need to teach those looking to us an example the right way to go. Think about it before you conceive. Is this a person that i can have a healthy relationship with...for this child's sake? Can i deal with this person for the next twenty-plus years...for this child's sake? Am i mature enought to fight past drama, agony and stress...for this child's sake? Think before you conceive...be an example is these kid's lives. Lets display Love. Honor. Patience. Positivity. Lets leave all this "Baby Mama Drama" at the door.
-and single dad's. I respect you for stepping to the plate when millions of Dad's choose not too. However, keep in mind, you're only doing you job.
oh this is so true.The worlds makes such a big deal out of men being single fathers whooptie doo, they're doing what they should be doing, they made the damn baby so they need to take care of the baby. No praises from me.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend once who divorced and let the 5 year old boy go with the dad, yes gave the father full custody of the kid and she had visitations on the weekends. everyone gave her such a bad time about that saying how could you as a mother give up your child, when the mothers have full custody, nobody say to the father: how could you give up custody. I think she did the right thing, he was a boy and needed to be with his father. It did not mean that loved her boy any less. There certainly are double standard when it comes to fathers and mothers raising kids. Women work just like men do so men need to take care of the kids just like women do. That's my story and i'm stickin to it. Now!!
Woe, I think single fathers should be recognized and encouraged. Since a heck of a whole lot of "fathers" don't take care of their children, it would be easy for them to follow suit. And understably so, ask Maury, "When it comes to ****** you are/are not the father." I think the problem is the lack of praise to single women, maybe you raise awareness on that little sister. The Bible say's,"Give honor to whom honor is do", also, "To honor both your Father and Mother". Both single men and single women should be praised, it's not easy. My Mother is a single mother who raised five children on her own, worked full time while similtaniously putting herself through college. I don't think very many if any single fathers have accomplished that. So I agree to disagree with you-yes single father's should be praised, but so should single mothers also.
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